LOVE BEGINS AT 40 If you’re dating again for the first time in a long time, you could probably use some confidence builders in the form of what I like to call ‘Dating Updating’. More than likely it’s probably been a while since you’ve done
something different with the way you look so a few changes can take you
from feeling like a suburban married housewife to a chic, confident and
pretty spectacular woman who’s ready to date. See it as a fun
investment in yourself as you begin this next chapter in your life!
#1- It All Begins with A New Look Ask your daughter or a trusted friend for advice on what about your
look no longer works for you. Over time, we all have a tendency to do
the same styles over and over again. Just think of how many blouses are
the same color and style in your closet right now? Next take a good look in the mirror. Are you happy with the way your
hair looks? Is it flattering to the shape of your face? It’s a wise
idea to leave trendy styles like severe wedges or spikes to the younger
crowd. These days, we all have grey that needs covering. Does your color
enhance your skin tone or does it fade you? Dark hair can make women our
age look a bit ghoulish, which is probably why Mother Nature doesn’t
give us black hair once we’ve hit 40 plus...
#2 - Add a New Touch of Color to Your Palette Great Makeup can make you feel like you’re on top of the world.
Trained makeup artists at your favorite department store will show you
the latest trends for looking great both day and night. Plus, you can
replicate the results easily with less expensive makeup purchased
elsewhere if you want. You’re making a lot of changes and change can be hard. I know just
trying a new lipstick color can be scary. Be sure to give yourself some
time to embrace your new look. Fortunately, hair grows back fairly
quickly and makeup can be changed if you aren’t happy with it.
#3- A New Excuse for Shopping Head to your favorite stores to buy fun dating
clothes that are flattering to your shape. If you’re not a shopper,
find a Personal Shopper at many of the larger Department Stores to help
you out. The store-not you pay them to help you shop. What’s so great is a personal shopper will coach you into exploring
many new and flattering styles you might not have tried on your own.
Clothing is an easy and quick fix for feeling good about yourself
especially when you wear an outfit that makes you feel like you’re on
top of the world.
It’s worth investing
in a few good pieces so when you have a date instead of rummaging
through your closet at the last minute feeling totally frustrated with
finding nothing to wear, you’ll have pieces to mix and match without
having to give it much thought. By applying these 3 easy steps, you are going to look great! Looking
great makes you feel great about yourself and when you feel great,
you’re going to feel more confident as you venture into the dating world ready to meet the “Quality Man” you want in your life.
Recovering from infidelity is never going to be easy. Whenever a violation of trust has occurred there is always caution on the part of the victim. This is completely understandable. There is no definitive way to overcome infidelity,
but there are lots of possible solutions. The first decision is
whether the couple are going to remain together or not after the infidelity. Either way, the victim will take a long time to heal. Should the
couple decide to stay together, there are many different sources of
help: counselling, e-books, books, and more recently hypnosis CD's. Some people have found benefit from utilising Neuro Linguistic Programming, and also Emotional Freedom Techniques. Whatever method, or possibly several, there will be considerable work to be done in recovering from infidelity. Trust is based on belief, and one's beliefs are the bedrock of how we
move throughout our lives. Some beliefs are much stronger and
important than others. Obviously, in the case of romantic attachments,
one believes (usually) that one's partner is completely honest, and
trustworthy. Coupled with that, is the belief that their partner is
completely faithful. These fundamental beliefs are often the foundation of
a relationship, and consequently carry powerful emotional attachments.
Just as one set of beliefs are smashed, another set of powerful
beliefs replace them. These beliefs are now the complete opposite of
trust. Almost everything is viewed with suspicion, and as the impact of
the event sinks in, the anger begins to unfold. Anger is usually high on the scale of emotions when you are recovering from infidelity, alongside humiliation, anxiety, depression, and confusion, and these are the emotions that will need to be assuaged. As you are recovering from infidelity it may seem that there is very
little improvement because the changes are small and almost
undetectable. However, with the right guidance and with determined
effort and support it is possible to start recovering from infidelity. None the less, it will be a process that may well take considerable
time. Recovering from infidelity is much like recovering from a bereavement. Usually, when a couple decide to stay together they take decisive
steps to change what had brought about the betrayal. This usually
involves a process of absolute honesty in stating what the needs of each
partner are. Once the needs of each partner are known, the process of
recovering from infidelity may begin.
Conversely, if the couple decide to break up, there is still much
work needed to recover from the impact of the event. In some cases it
may still be necessary to see a counsellor or use some of the other aids
available, and would probably be wise to do so. It can take a long time recovering from post traumatic shock, and it
should never be treated lightly. If the issues aren't worked through
carefully then it may impact upon a person for more years than
necessary, and indeed some people never recover at all it they don't
seek some kind of help.
If you want to have success in this world, then your ability to make
yourself likeable will play an essential role. Find out what makes a
person likeable and you will access a very important resource for your
personal or professional success. The truth is there are lots of things that can potentially make a
person likeable. Various people have various tastes regarding other
people, so there is a lot of leeway here. But if you take a closer look, you will discover that there are
certain key traits that stand out. These traits make a person likeable
above all other traits, to most other people.
1. Being Positive The people who are most likeable exude positive energy. They are
happy, content and optimistic most of the time, and this feeling is
contagious. When others interact with them or they’re simply around
them, this positive feeling gets passed on. Basically, because they are positive, they make others be positive.
And since this is such a precious thing, it makes them very endearing as
individuals. The power of being positive cannot be understated.
2. Being Confident Confidence is another trait that’s very appealing. When we perceive
that a person is confident, we automatically tend to like them or admire
them more, or become attracted to them if they’re a member of the
opposite sex. In a way, confidence suggests that you’re a capable person and
you know this. So when you convey confidence, you convey these positive
messages.
3. Liking People We tend to like in turn the people who like us first. So it’s no
coincidence that some of the most likeable people are appreciative of
others. They’re confident, but not in a cold, arrogant way, rather in a
friendly, humble way. You’ll often hear others describing them as a pleasant person, or a
sociable person; these are typically different way to convey that this
person likes them and treats them well. It makes them feel appreciated
and they appreciate in turn.
4. Being Fun Likeable people are fun to be around. You may have noticed this. They
joke around, they play around, they don’t take things too seriously and
they know how to have a good time, as well as help others have a good
time. And since most of us really wanna have more fun and be around people
who help us have fun, this is a very endearing trait. Just this quality
alone can increase your likability significantly.
As you can see, most of these top traits that make a person likeable have to do with your attitude.
Being positive, confident, fun and liking others, these are all
attitudes. Indeed, how smart you are, how rich you are, how you dress or
how you look influence to a much lesser degree how likeable you are.
So if you want to be more likeable, focus above all on developing
these attitudes. Work on your mindset, improve your image of yourself,
others and life, and become a better presence for others to have around.
They will like you tenfold more as a result.
There are more and more mature individuals seeking mature dating
today with the increasing stress from the workplace and the economy.
Most of these mature individuals are working executives who feel the
pressure from work and need some way to relax and unwind. One of the
more effective ways to relieve stress is through some social
interaction.
Effectiveness It is human nature to interact with one another to find solace and peace of mind when troubled. The mature individuals normally seek their own kind of people for some mature dating. This allows the mature individuals to be able to empathize with each other on most subject matters. Such mature dating is more effective than seeing any shrink.
It always feels good to be able to pour out one’s personal take on work
or life with people who are in the same category or age bracket. This
allows the mature individuals to support and encourage one another
through life; hence, there is mutual benefit in mature dating as one
dates the same age group party.
Expectations There is less expectation in mature dating as the mature parties
usually know what they want in a date. There is an upfront honesty and
openness between the dating parties to put the parties at ease when on a
mature dating session. With lesser expectations, there is less pressure on mature daters;
this in turn leads to an easy time of conversing and relaxing. Both
parties feel at ease and comfortable to share about work, hobbies,
similarities, opinions and thoughts. However, mature dating parties tend
to be a little more formal and courteous on their first date as both
are unsure of each other’s expectations or how the true self will
surface during the date.
Program Mature dating programs are very simple; mature daters want some time
together in a private environment where both parties can get to know
each other. Most mature dating parties would want to check out each
other subtly through some simple conversations before further dates are
planned. Mature daters do not need elaborate programs although they can
afford fine dining and concerts. Mature dating programs are meant to help the mature daters discover
more about each other before proceeding to another phase of their dating
spectrum. In today’s modern society, both parties in mature dating are
open to planning the program. There is a greater acceptance to both
parties’ suggestion for a mature dating program. There is no coercion to
push a preferred mature dating program through with mature daters.
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