Wednesday, 28 September 2011

Myths About Relationships - Part 1

There are many myths about relationships, and the problem with persistent myths is that they can erode a relationship's happiness.
When you think a relationship should be a certain way, and yours isn't, frustration sets in. 
Here are a couple of myths about relationships that might surprise you.  I will deal with more in the next couple of blogs.

Myth: A good relationship means that you don't have to work at it.
Fact: "The strongest most enduring relationships take lots of hard work," Our culture, education system and parenting styles don't necessarily prepare us for the fact that even good relationships take effort.

A healthy relationship is like a good garden. It's a beautiful thing but you wouldn't expect it to thrive without a whole lot of labour and TLC.

But how do you know if you're working too hard on a relationship? One sign, is if you're feeling unhappy more than you're happy. In other words, are you spending more time tending to the relationship and keeping it afloat than enjoying it?  Perhaps this unhappiness becomes less of a rough patch, and more like the "normal state of affairs".

Another bad sign is if you're trying hard to make improvements and changes, but you don't see the same level of effort on your partner's part.

If both of you are trying and you can see positive changes being made at least some of the time, then that's a good sign.

Myth: If partners really love each other, they know each other's needs and feelings.
Fact: "It's a setup to expect your partner to be able to read your mind,"
We're always responsible for communicating our feelings and needs.  Once you've communicated your needs and feelings,  a good indication of the quality of your relationship is whether your partner actually listens to your words.

Wishing  you every success in your dating decisions with

Wednesday, 14 September 2011

Make the necessary changes with Confidence ...

Ever wondered why we hurt so much and sometimes just feel like we can’t move on emotionally? Why can’t we get those memories out of our heads and heart? The fact is, the more you try to stay strong, the more weak moments you have. The truth is… we are doing it to ourselves.
Why does love have to be so complicated? It doesn’t have to be but it does require work from both parties. The simple fact is that you cannot make someone love you. The more pleasant moments you create between two people regardless if you are just starting a relationship or trying to get back together, the better your chances at reuniting and learning to love all over again. Learn to build your confidence and self-worth BEFORE you start to create positive moments.
It is important to listen and not push. Anything you push hard enough will break. If your partner asks for time…give them all the time they need within limits. This is a very difficult lesson to learn but in the long run, there is someone out there that will be thankful every day and NEVER dream of leaving you. No one lives your life for you. Be careful that you are so busy trying to find someone to love you that I stop loving yourself.  Take responsibility for your own happiness and find the confidence within yourself to change for YOU.

Wednesday, 7 September 2011

Creating your Dating Profile

Writing a dating profile is not easy – I think there’s a science and art to it! I believe most guys think that just put up a few words on dating website and then the replies will come rolling in – nothing could be further from the truth!
Women seem to know how important a good dating profile is, while men, on the whole, don’t! First impressions count; especially in the dating game. So having a dating profile that generates a good response is the essential first step in finding suitable and interesting dates.
Writing a good profile is not easy; it takes time, practice and some tweaking. When you register at any dating website, you will have to create a personal profile that reflects what you are like and what you are looking for. You have only a few paragraphs to do this, so every word should count.
My advice on how to create the best personal profile is simple: Honesty and Modesty.
Be selective of your photo. Make sure it shows a good view of your face, and does not include friends. Have fun, and enjoy the responses. It certainly makes life's journey interesting!!