Monday, 11 June 2012

Boundaries and Personalities Should Be Respected

Everybody's different, and when you're in a mature dating relationship, you can and should
acknowledge that. In a mature relationship, the lines are drawn, but blurred. Basically, things that
men used to do can be done by women. And things women used to do can be done by men.
Surprisingly, this works well in almost every situation. No matter who you are, you can and should
contribute to your relationship.

Practical Applications for Contributing to Your Mature Dating Relationship
When you're in a relationship, there are lots of things that you have to figure out. The problem is
that sometimes, a lot of times, the things people want aren't the same. Both people want different
things, or even the same things, but you have different ways of doing it. Even if you both have the
same ultimate goal: finding a strong relationship that will last. How do you split the responsibilities?
Sometimes you don't.

o Leadership.
Though leadership is typically the responsibility of the man, both people can step up. However,
while both people can take the lead, in a more traditional relationship, when you really clash, the
woman should yield. And in an untraditional relationship, anything goes. Dating when you are
older requires that you take charge, at least sometimes.

o Shopping.
Both people can do the grocery shopping. It doesn't matter who does it. Chances are if you go
shopping with the person with whom you're in a mature dating relationship, you'll both drive one
another crazy. One person might bargain shop. The other might buy only the expensive, name
brand items. So you might need to work on things to decide how you will arrange it. You can do it
together or you can choose one of you to go, whichever works best.

o Nurturing.
You and the person you're in the mature relationship with will need to nurture one another. It's not
solely the responsibility of one person. It's something you need to work on together so that you're
both satisfied. However, chances are good you'll nurture one another in different ways. Hopefully,
the way you nurture one another is what you need.

o Asking someone out on a date.
There's nothing wrong with asking someone out on a date. And whether you're male or female,
you can do the asking. Some people feel uncomfortable asking or if they think they should have
done the asking, but the truth is, if you find someone who doesn't like the way you do things, you'll
find someone else who does. When you're in a mature dating relationship, you need to be willing
to take the initiative. And that includes asking out the person you're interested in.

o Paying.
Both of you can and should pay. If you have a job, you should contribute. And no matter who you
are, you shouldn't date someone who doesn't have a job, unless you're both students. You don't
want someone who is going to mooch off of you the way they've probably mooched off friends and
family. When you're in a mature dating relationship, you're both contributing to the relationship,
and that includes offering to pay for dinner or a movie. Even if it's only every once in awhile.
Mature dating is hard work. When you're in a relationship with someone, chances are good they'll
have different expectations than you do. They might even want things that are different than what
you want. When you're working on being mature while dating, you need to work on it to make it
work. That includes respecting the other person, his or her boundaries and what he or she thinks
is right in a relationship.

Sunday, 8 January 2012

Looking to MIngle with other Mature Singles?

Are you a single looking to mingle with others? just like them. A lot of singles are wondering
where they can find other singles in their same situation.
In response several of my single parent friends have suggested the following general common
sense starting points for those seeking to mingle with single parents:
Decide what your passion is, and go where you will meet others doing the same thing. It's much
easier and more fun to meet and mingle with other single parents if you share common interests.
Follow the kids to their activities and events, as you are sure to meet other single parents in your
position. Kids are often a great point of contact for having good conversations with other single
parents. Mingling with other singles parents in this way and supporting your children at the same
time. What can beat that?
The following are a few places you can start meeting other singles:
  • Check out a local church for friendship and ministry opportunities The fellowship you will findthere will greatly benefit both you and your child(ren).
  • Volunteer at your local Christian charitable organization. You have so many to choose from, andthis is not only a great way to lift your own depression, but also a great way to meet and mingle while serving the Lord. How can you beat that, right?
  • Join a Christian singles group or other kind of support group especially for single parents. Are you a divorced single parent?
  • Organize a singles only game night. Just tell each single friend that they have to bring two other singles with them. 
  • If you want to mingle online try out the top online Christian dating services, By the way if you're looking for some great Christian dating tips or other dating/relationship advice you can find it all on this singles site
  • Go to sporting events in town.
  • Go on a singles retreat.
  • Fact: cooking classes attract lots of singles.
  • Check your local newspapers for upcoming events like craft fairs and flea markets, which attract tons of single parents.
If you're a single parent mom who like sports, you can easily find single guys
hanging out at local sports clubs watching the games.
Take a lesson in some kind of coed sport.