Fact: Thanks to movies and romantic novels, we assume that if we genuinely love someone, "the passion and loving" never go away. And if they do disappear, then "it must not be the right relationship" or "our relationship must be in trouble." However, passion naturally diminishes in all relationships.
Daily routines are one of the culprits. As responsibilities grow and roles expand, couples have less and less time and energy for each other.
But this doesn't mean that the passion is gone for good. With a little planning and playfulness, you can boost passion. It is important for couples to introduct new things to perk up the relationship. Emotional intimacy along with a continuing sense of adventure and exploration puts a new aspect on things. Try and avoid passion-squashing routines.
Myth: Having a child will strengthen your relationship or marriage.
Fact: Studies have shown that relationship happiness actually decreases with every child. This doesn't mean that you start loving each other less or that you won't bond at all over your child, but the mounting challenges can complicate relationships.
Having realistic expectations helps couples prepare themselves for their new roles. When you think that a child will improve your relationship, it only adds to the complications.
Planning ahead and talking about the changes that will occur can go a long way preparing for when you have your first child or more kids.