Saturday, 12 July 2014

Do You Have a Fear of Commitment ?


Do you find yourself getting cold feet at some point after starting a new relationship? Do you know why? Do want to know how to free yourself of this limiting and frustrating scenario?

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When it comes to relationships the fear of commitment is a familiar yet poorly understood entity.
Did you know that it can be due to many underlying factors such as:

1. The fear of intimacy.

2. The fear of feeling too dependent on your partner.

3. The fear of being exploited.

4. The fear of being rejected.

5. The fear of re-experiencing old painful feelings of a parental separation, divorce or loss.

6. Feelings of inadequacy.

7. Feelings of shyness.

8. The fear of fully opening yourself up to your own feelings.

9. The fear of being lied to.   And so on....

Did you also know that many individuals believe that such factors actually keep them feeling safe and secure by preventing them from venturing forward into uncharted relationship waters. Is that however true?  For instance, let's look at the fear of rejection as a case in point. When you're caught in this fear do you actually feel safe or secure? Unlikely!
Instead you likely feel very insecure, anxious, vulnerable, and like wanting to run away!  If you see that, then if you wish kindly place one hand over your Heart and simply affirm to your self that you see that.  You may feel strangely more empowered now. If you like that experience then also affirm that to yourself and it and you will only grow stronger.  All of these negative factors actually have the potential to keep you very much alone and feeling unfulfilled, correct? If you see that affirm that to yourself.

So are we all born with these negative factors inside of us? No.
They get programmed into you as you grow up and experience negative events that are subsequently stored inside of you as negative memories. These memories have associated with them the old painful feelings which they generate regularly as long as the memory resides inside you.  The only real way to free yourself of those negative feelings/factors is to erase the memories that generate them.

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