We all have opportunities that present themselves everyday, and we have the chance to choose one direction or another. Once we decide on the specific course of action that we will go down, consequences will occur and our lives will be changed; however, change is good and should be embraced. We can learn from change and hopefully, we will grow in our mature dating relationships.
You have the choices that come with the initial dating relationship. Where do you want to go out on a date? What should you wear to the date? What should you talk about on your date? There are so many choices that you need to make just when you are beginning to formulate a relationship with someone. How are you supposed to make the right choices and to take responsibility for those choices?
Making the right choices starts with focusing on what you really want out of life and knowing where
you want to go. If you want to participate in a mature dating relationship, you need to have your own personal immediate, short-term and long-term goals figured out and decided upon before you try to maneuver in the dating seeking world. You need to work on your list of what you are looking for in a dating partner before you begin your search for a partner. There will be times when your choices don't work out so well for you. You may chose to date someone and after some time in a dating relationship, you realize that this person is not the most compatible match for you and you both decide to end the relationship. It's possible that the break up may not go smoothly and you'll have some tension. You can still coexist in mature dating relationships if you learn how to be mature and deal with conflict resolution effectively for personal growth. You need to learn from your past experience in regard to your dating relationships and move forward to new relationships that will succeed.
You will have choices to make in regard to your partner and how you conduct your relationship. If your partner makes a mistake and does something to hurt or upset you, that is a situation where you will have a choice to make; do you become angry and frustrated and bitter or will you become understanding and acknowledge that no one is perfect and you need to love your partner unconditionally. You can participate in mature dating relationships if you make the right choices that promote emotionally healthy growth and values.