Tuesday, 25 March 2014

Everything Can Be Ruined By Having Expectations That Are Unrealistically High

When you are fresh out of a relationship which did not last too long for whatever reason, everything seems imperfect and you seem to have lost hope on dating. When you finally start to look for a mature dating relationship, then your constant search for perfection leads to disappointment at all levels.  This is one of the primary reasons why you should never keep your hopes too high for dating.
Nobody is perfect and when you want to search for someone who is perfect, you would be looking for someone who is exactly as you want them to be. There would be an absence of individuality which would affect you in the long run of mature dating relationships. Of course, you should have good expectations and should never settle for someone who you think is second best but the expectations should be intertwined with a tinge of realism. Mature dating relationships are all about finding the right person for yourself and taking decisions which would affect your life in a positive manner. Instead of searching for someone who is perfect, you should make a list of all the qualities which you look for. Perhaps you will meet someone who makes perfect sense of the qualities and is there waiting for you.

The point of making such a list is to review it. This would give you a good idea whether you are being realistic enough in mature dating relationships instead of searching for that mythical perfect person. Having unnaturally high expectations tends to destroy any hopes of finding a soul mate.  This would lead to bitterness and misery which would further harm your state of mind. But once you have a picture of what you are looking for in a person who can make you happy, then start the dating scene with wanton recklessness. Sometimes, the best way to find someone you like is by not searching for them. Obviously they would not be telling you about their character traits by the dozen, you need to figure that out yourself. Who knows who your perfect soul mate is? Maybe it is someone who is half-way around the world or maybe it is someone who you met in the train today or that someone who is sitting beside you.

It is essential in mature dating relationships to remember to treat the other person the way you would want to be treated. We are all imperfect so we won't always fight fair nor do everything in the best interest of others, so we all need grace to mess up. When you offer forgiveness and grace you will in turn receive the same when you need it the most. Keep the other person in your mind and heart and know that as you give from a place of selflessness, you will have a huge return on the investment in the end.

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